For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.   –Alfred D’Souza

As I lay down on a massage table feeling the soothing touch of a masseuse’s hands releasing the built up stress and tension from my body, my muscles can’t stop singing “thank you” as I let go physically.   Letting go…these words struck me!This is my time to let go of….

letting go  fear based thinking, “shoulds,” focusing on lack, self-doubt, perfectionism, old stories that keep me in a box, discouragement from others, limiting beliefs, worrying, obsessing about the “how,” scarcity thinking, judgment, indecision, disempowering language, overwhelm, comparing myself to others, etc….

Usually our own hands are full, filled with tasks, problems and possessions that seem impossible to put down. Our lives are crowded with decisions, plans and dreams. When these plans are not fulfilled, when events do not go as we would wish, or when change comes unexpectedly, we start to cling, hold on and resist. Our body feels an increasing anxiety.

Sometimes we hardly know how to deal with change or understand why it is happening to us. Our lives are centered around the power of having more. We become very proud of what we have accumulated; money, degrees, skills, friends, information, property, lovers.Soon we are so full we can hardly move, and yet we still search for more. Before long, we even believe what we have is who we are.

It is not so easy to stop piling up and simply clean out the drawers.With the  simple power of having, the process of attachment appears.

We become afraid of losing that which we have. Everything seems precious, no matter what. Most of us feel we are our job, possessions, achievements, and relationships. This is how we know ourselves. If we lose one of them, we feel we have lost part of ourselves. But, whether or not we want to let go, life itself decides for us.

Change comes in its own time, both giving and taking things away. When this happens, we suffer greatly from this sense of loss. We hold on and resist what is happening in our lives – through depression, denial, endless activity, immediately making new plans. By fighting change this way, we are insisting that life meet our particular demands, fulfill our needs and expectations. A battle is set up between pain and fear.

Yes… a battle, two battles. How many battles and struggles did I try to resist or cling to?Life flows, life changes.  A time to start over.

Will of the Wind



The secret to living the life of your dreams is to start living the life of your dreams today, in every little way you possibly can. -Mike Dooley

Be willing to be a beginner every single morning. – Meister Eckhart

When the world says, “Give up,” Hope whispers, “Try it one more time”.You have more potential than you believe you do.Don’t cry because its over, smile because it happened. – Dr. Seuss

Don’t look further for answers: be the solution. You were born with everything you need to know. Make a promise to stop getting in the way of the blessing that you are. Take a deep breath, remember to have fun, and begin. – Jonathan H. Ellerby

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.Henry FordHow wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world.-Anne Frank

Whatever you do or dream you can do – begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Life is not a dress rehearsal. Stop practicing what you’re going to do and just go do it. In one bold stroke you can transform today. – Marilyn Grey

Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful. –Mark Victor Hansen

Everything is affected by and is part of everything else, changing constantly from one state to another. The rain becomes the river; the river surrenders to the sea and the cycle begins over again. Nothing is ever lost. The melody changes – the dance goes on. -Connie Harrison

There are some things one can only achieve by a deliberate leap in the opposite direction. – Franz Kafka

Don’t worry about being worried. You’re heading out on an adventure and you can always change your mind along the way and try something else. – Tracy Kidder

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. -Martin Luther King, Jr.

A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. -Lao TsuIn

Baby step by baby step, you have what you need right now to start moving in the direction of your happiest dreams. -Marta Davidovich Ockuly

The dream and the dreamer are always matched. You could not have a dream without the means, right now, to begin it. -Marta Davidovich

Some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity. -Gilda Radner

You can learn new things at any time in your life if you’re willing to be a beginner. If you actually learn to like being a beginner, the whole world opens up to you. –Barbara Sher

You don’t need endless time and perfect conditions. Do it now. Do it today. Do it for twenty minutes and watch your heart start beating. –Barbara Sher

A time comes when you need to stop waiting for the man you want to become and start being the man you want to be. -Bruce Springsteen

When I face the desolate impossibility of writing 500 pages, a sick sense of failure falls on me, and I know I can never do it. Then gradually, I write one page and then another. One day’s work is all that I can permit myself to contemplate. -John Steinbeck

Keep on beginning and failing. Each time you fail, start all over again, and you will grow stronger until you have accomplished a purpose – not the one you began with perhaps, but one you’ll be glad to remember. –Anne Sullivan

Courage is the power to let go of the familiar. – Raymond Lindquist

Celebrate endings – for they precede new beginnings. – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right. – Oprah Winfrey

An optimist stays up until midnight to see the new year in. A pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves. – Bill Vaughn

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C. S. Lewis

We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.- Joseph Campbell

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.- Martin Luther King, Jr.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.– Lao Tzu

What we call the beginning is often the end.And to make an end is to make a beginning.The end is where we start from.– T. S. Eliot

To go against the dominant thinking of your friends, of most of the people you see every day, is perhaps the most difficult act of heroism you can perform.- Theodore H. White

God grant me the serenityTo accept the things I cannot change;Courage to change the things I can;And wisdom to know the difference.- Reinhold Niebuhr

Start by doing what’s necessary;then do what’s possible;and suddenly you are doing the impossible.- St. Francis of Assisi

Press the reset button

We promise according to our hopes, and perform according to our fears. – Francois duc de la Rochefoucauld

It’s January again. Each New Year is an exciting time. It symbolized transformation and starting new. It’s a time when we can let go of the old, shed our past and begin again. It is a time for new inspirations, new hopes,  resolutions, changes.

Nevertheless, how many times have I told myself that I will make a positive change and be a better person each new year?  I always get off track and lose sight of the life I meant to live. December rolls around and I wondered what happened. Where did I go wrong? My excitement became fear. My hopes, emptied.

time to reset

While I can’t exactly travel back in time, there are certain ways I can “reboot” my life. I need to find my “reset button”. Pressing the reset button in my life everyday is a good alternative. I do not have to wait for December again to see how far or how much I have changed.

Why everyday? It is because each day I am faced with obstacles to move forward and be focused. Laziness, bad weather, hurt feelings, rude people, gripes and groans, traffic, sad or bad news, inflation, debts, unloving persons or situations and a lot of negative or “unwanted files” tend to get into my system.  At the end of the day, I cannot hardly emit a “beep”. Instead, a message “invalid procedure” is displayed by my gesture and finally I shut down just like a computer.

However, with each gift of a new day, I should debug my life and re-install good moods, kind words, and loving actions and just like computers, I should pick a life restore point and start reconnecting with people, things and nature.

I may backslide from time to time but I won’t let it deter me.  Life is an ever-changing process and nothing is final.  Just like what Confucious said: “It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop.”

Each day is a chance to begin anew. Before I know it, I will be the person I always wanted to be.

Reset the button

Starting today, let us promise ourselves to press our “reset button” everyday.  Let us promise ourselves not to wait for another day, another month or year.  We should not wait until the beginning of the year to make resolutions.

Each new day is a new beginning.  Instead of saying “one day”, let us say “starting today.”  Start today with this promise:

Promise yourself
to dream more and hesitate less.

Promise yourself
to believe in yourself more
and judge yourself less by
the accomplishments of others.

Promise yourself
to accept life as it comes
and truly make each day special.

Promise yourself
to become more independent
and more willing to change.

Promise yourself
to fill your life
with special times,
and make your dreams come true. – Deanna Beisser


When a man takes an oath… he’s holding his own self in his own hands. Like water. And if he opens his fingers then – he needn’t hope to find himself again. – Robert Bolt

Oaths are but words, and words but wind. –Samuel Butler

Better a broken promise than none at all.” –Mark Twain

Promises are like babies:  easy to make, hard to deliver. – Unknown

Most of us are pretty good at keeping promises to others and pretty bad at keeping promises to ourselves. –Lawrence LeShan

He who is the most slow in making a promise is the most faithful in the performance of it. – Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Better break your word than do worse in keeping it. –Thomas Fuller

He is poor indeed who can promise nothing. –Thomas Fuller

The best way to keep one’s word is not to give it. –Napoleon Bonaparte

Promise a lot and give even more. –Anthony J. D`Angelo

Promises are the uniquely human way of ordering the future. –Hannah Arendt

God promises a safe landing but not a calm passage. –Bulgarian Proverb

Promises are the uniquely human way of ordering the future, making it predictable and reliable to the extent that this is humanly possible. –Hannah Arendt

Vote for the man who promises least. He’ll be the least disappointing. –Bernard Baruch

God… doesn’t promise you happiness and that everything will go well. But he does promise you peace. – Patricia Heaton

Promise is most given when the least is said. –George Chapman

Losers make promises they often break.  Winners make commitments they always keep. –Denis Waitley

A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is rain. –Arabian Proverb

One must have a good memory to be able to keep the promises that one makes. –Friedrich Nietzsche

Promises are like the full moon, if they are not kept at once they diminish day by day. –German Proverb

You cannot live on other people’s promises, but if you promise others enough, you can live on your own. –Mark Caine

The man who promises everything is sure to fulfill nothing, and everyone who promises too much is in danger of using evil means in order to carry out his promises, and is already on the road to perdition. –Carl Jung

Put up or shut up. –American Proverb