I know people who equates success with money, wealth or career, and self-independence. Same people who scoffs at my idea to return back in the Philippines. “There is no money in the Philippines!” they say.

I told them success isn’t about achieving something in the future, but about doing something right now what you love…just like what Henry David Thoreau said:

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours.” –

What I always imagined is always here inside my room. I am sharing you my seven secrets of success for everyday:

  1. Roof says : “Aim High”
  2. I believe it is necessary to save riches in heaven. This is the highest aim we can have. Let us focus our priorities and our thoughts on heavenly things like love, peace of mind, generostity, etc with people we interact with everyday. Then, we are saving our treasures in heaven

    “where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.” -Matthew 6:19-21

  3. Fan says : “Be Cool”
  4. How many times in a day are we losing our temper and composure? How do we handle our stressful job, a nagging wife, a jealous partner, irritating client or co-worker, traffic, etc?? I like the way the Americans’ would say: “Cool Man!” We should be telling this mantra to ourselves first.

  5. Clock says : “Every minute is precious”
  6. This does not refer only in beating deadlines or appointments. This is being aware of how much quality time are we spending with the person we love. There should not be “tomorrow” in making up with our mistakes or selfishness. The tme is now.

    7 secrets of success

  7. Mirror says : “Reflect before you act”
  8. We are rational beings but oftentimes, we let our animal instinct and reflex to get hold on us . “Hold your horses” they say or count up to 10 when our negative emotions are at its peak.

  9. Window says : “See the World”
  10. The world cannot be only a physical place, it can be looking inside the “world” of a child, an old person, a sick person, a prostitute, an addict, a homosexual, or anyone who is marginalize by our society. If we manage to discover and penetrate their world, compassion and generosity will grow in us.

  11. Calender says : “Be updated”
  12. Everyday is a learning and lifetime process. Anyone who stops learning is old whether you are twenty and eighty says Henry Ford. Do you agree?

  13. Door says : “Push hard to achieve your goal”
  14. Failures and obstacles should not block us. The song of “WIN” by Brian Mcknight must be a humming tune inside our hearts in times of downfalls.

Success for me is finding joy, passion, love, awesome-ness right now, in this moment. This is a success one can achieve, without any self-help course, without any method. Just go out and do it. Share it as well.

What is your secret of success?


I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan

Too many people go through life waiting for things to happen instead of making them happen! – Sasha Azevedo, Actress (1978 May 20)

There are no shortcuts to any place worth going” – Helen Keller

The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to use the stairs…. One step at a time. – unknown

Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there.” – John Wooden, Basketball Coach

You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks
Winston Churchill

There are two types of people
who are failures in life…
Those who do not listen to
those who listen to EVERYBODY – Unknown

I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.”
Bill Cosby

I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has had to overcome while trying to succeed.
Booker T. Washington

Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.– Confucius

There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: Those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed – Ray Goforth

Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.
Attitude is everything…- J. D’Angelo

If A equals success, then the formula is A = X + Y + Z. X is work. Y is play. Z is keep your mouth shut.
– Albert Einstein

“Setting a goal is not the main thing. It is deciding how you will go about achieving it and staying with that plan.”
– Tom Landry

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”
Sir Winston Churchill

Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful. – Mark Victor Hansen

Whenever you see a successful person you only see the public glories, never the private sacrifices to reach them.
Vaibhav Shah

I CAN’T=I Certainly Am Not Trying – rosanna sarte

I love the story about the high school basketball coach who was attempting to motivate his players to persevere through a difficult season. Halfway through the season he stood before the team and said,”Did Micheal Jordan ever quit?” The team responded,”No!” He yelled,”What about Wright brothers?Did they ever give up?” “No!” hollered back the team.”Did Muhammad Ali ever quit?” Again the team yelled, “No!” “Did Elmer McAllister ever quit?”
There was a long silence. Finally, one player was bold enough to ask,”Who’s Elmer McAllister?We’ve never heard of him.” The coach snapped back,”Of course you’ve never heard of him – he quit! – anonymous

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing–that is why we recommend it daily.
Zig Ziglar

The seed of the chinese bamboo tree spends five years under the ground with no growth whatsoever but in the fifth year it grows over 80 feet tall, have a little patience in life, your success might just be around the corner.
Dade Keshinro

Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.- Pablo Picasso

For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?
James Allen

Show me someone who’s never made a mistake and I’ll show you someone whose never achieved much.
– Joan Collins

Success: To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded!
– ‘Ralph Waldo Emerson

asked for strength and
God gave me difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for wisdom and
God gave me problems to solve.

I asked for prosperity and
God gave me brawn and brains to work.

I asked for courage and
God gave me dangers to overcome.

I asked for patience and
God placed me in situations where I was forced to wait.

I asked for love and
God gave me troubled people to help.

I asked for favors and
God gave me opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted
I received everything I needed.
My prayers have all been answered.


For every door that opens, two more will slam in your face. But that doesn’t mean you should stop knocking.
– Susan Gale


Love doesn’t lie, people do. Love doesn’t leave, people do. Love surely doesn’t leave you broken and annoyed. That’s something only a person is capable of doing. Don’t blame love, if it’s not in you.” –DeAndre Carswell

Are you happy with your relationship?Do you still feel the need to hold on to it even when you no longer feel its magical power of not being annoyed by your partner’s smell, look, opinions and behavior?

You slowly feel your needs are not satisfied. Emotionally, physically, financially, sexually and morally you feel like going down the drain.You feel hurt, in pain and alone.You might post your status in Facebook from “ In a relationship” to “it’s complicated” leaning to “single” and finally “unstable”!Status Facebook

Now let’s take an honest look at the mirror and ask ourselves “what have I done  for this relationship?” “Am I still committed to this relationship?”For me it is important to believe that love is MORE than just a feeling. Love is also a decision, a commitment, a choice.Having said so, let us evaluate 5 important areas of our relationship.

  1.   Spending time alone together – This is a problem with couples who have kids, who are “career –ambition oriented”, and  who are engross with hobbies or friends and other passions. Couples who don’t spend time alone together will drift apart. it’s important that you have time alone together. Seriously — make the time. Your partner should be your priority. And when you’re together, make an effort to connect, not just be together.  Build bridges.
  2.  Appreciate each other – Try to see the good things about your partner. Take the time to say thank you, and give a hug and kiss. This little expression can go a long way. Don’t take your partner for granted or the relationship will drift towards a platonic level.Take the time, every single day, to give affection to your partner. Greet her when she comes home from work with a tight hug. Wake him up with a passionate kiss (who cares about morning breath!). Sneak up behind her and kiss her on the neck. Make out in the movie theater like teen-agers. Caress his back and neck while watching TV. Smile at her often
  3.  Be intimate often – Sex is good. Pillow talk is better. Sex is easy, intimacy is difficult. It requires honesty, openness, self-disclosure, confiding concerns, fears, sadness as well as hopes and dreams.Work hard at maintaining closeness. Closeness doesn’t happen by itself. In its absence, people drift apart and are susceptible to affairs. A good relationship isn’t an end goal; it’s a lifelong process maintained through regular attention.
  4.  Talk, share and give and meet halfway –Know your needs and express them clearly. A relationship is not a guessing game. Many people, fear expressing  their needs and, as a result, camouflage them. The result is disappointment at not getting what they want. Closeness cannot occur without honesty. Your partner is not a mind reader.Solve problems as they arise – Don’t let resentments simmer. Cut it off while it’s still small. Most of what goes wrong in relationships can be traced to hurt feelings, leading partners to erect defenses against one another and to become strangers. Or enemies.There are two good ways to deal with resentment:
  • breathe, and just let it go — accept your partner for who she/he is, faults and all because  none of us is perfect; or
  •  talk to your partner about it if you cannot accept it, and try to come up with a solution that works for both of you – meet halfway ! Negotiate, compromise, rather than asking the other person to change; try to talk to them in a non-confrontational way, but in a way that expresses how you feel without being accusatory.

5.  Don’t keep score – Keeping score is one of the most damaging things you can do to your relationship. I did the dishes last night, it’s his turn to apologize , it’s her turn to clean the bathroom, sexual intimacy is going zero every week, etc. Keeping score leads to resentment, hard feelings and a whole lot of stuff. If you find yourself starting to keep score -STOP- get together and talk. Talk about joint responsibilities, set realistic expectations, and talk openly about how you may feel you’re being taken for granted and where the other person could pitch in.

All relationships have their ups and downs just like a roller coaster. It does not ride at a continuous high all the time. Working together through the hard times will make the relationship stronger. Patience, respect , listening skills and love are our handy tools.

So try to make a  good sense of a bad relationship by examining it as a reflection of your beliefs about yourself.  Don’t  just run away from a bad relationship; you’ll only repeat it with the next partner.Let us examine it and use it as a mirror to look at yourself, to understand what in you is creating this relationship.

Change yourself before you change your relationship. Remember,  love is not an absolute, not a limited commodity that you’re in of or out of.It’s a feeling that ebbs and flows depending on how you treat each other.If you learn new ways to interact, the feelings can come flowing back, often stronger than before. What do you think?


Man is a knot into which relationships are tied. – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry,Flight to Arras, 1942, translated from French by Lewis Galantière

Celebrate every relationship you have ever had. For better or worse, our relationships are our best teachers. And on a soul level, we’ve attracted each and every one of them so we can learn and grow. -Dr. Christiane Northrup

Relationship is an art. The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one. – Don Miguel Ruiz

Relationships are harder now because conversations became texting, arguments became phone calls, feelings became subliminal messages online. Sex became easy, the word “love” gets used out of context, insecurities have become your way of thinking. Getting jealous became a habit, trust has been lost, cheating became an accident, leaving became the only option and being hurt became natural. –unknown

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. – Emily Kimbrough

There are days when you need someone who just wants to be your sunshine and not the air you breathe. –Robert Brault

Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in the shade. – Leo Buscaglia

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? – Stephen Levine

Assumptions are the termites of relationships. – Henry Winkler

I felt it shelter to speak to you. – Emily Dickinson

Are we not like two volumes of one book? ~Marceline Desbordes-Valmor

Relationships: If you put up with it, you’re going to end up with it. Set the standard you want and don’t settle for less. -Steve Maraboli

Every relationship can be a lesson in self-worth. The person who is the hardest to forgive is the one who can teach you the greatest lessons. Its important to remember, that when you believe that – We are all One, its virtually impossible to find that hurting another feels good. For hurting another means hurting yourself. So-called irresponsible behavior vanishes and your gifted with the freedom to create a new life.” –Neale Donald Walsch

To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship. – Doménico Cieri Estrada

Never give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about.  –Author Unknown

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love. -Author Unknown

Don’t bring baggage from an ex-relationship into your next relationship…unless you want it to be a short trip.” –Robert Tew

Without a single thought, two hands collide and the world finally makes sense again. – Kayla Dawn

Happiness is having a dream you cannot let go of and a partner who would never ask you to. – Robert Brault

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. – Oprah Winfrey

There are times when two people need to step apart from one another, but there is no rule that says they have to turn and fire. – Robert Brault

Plan your relationships around your life… Not your life around your relationships. –Robert Tew

Not all relationships are meant to last, they’re just practice for the one that does. -Linda Poindexter

Love makes the relationship. Trust makes the difference in the success of the relationship. –Mark Amend