Before and after you fall in love: …

BEFORE – You take my breath away    AFTER – I feel likeI’m suffocating

BEFORE – Twice a night                    AFTER – Twice a month

BEFORE – She says she loves the way I take control of a situation     AFTER – She calls me a controlling, manipulative egomaniac

BEFORE – Don’t stop                            AFTER – Don’t start

BEFORE – Is that all you’re having?     AFTER – Maybe you should have just a salad, honey

BEFORE – It’s like I’m living in a dream     AFTER – It’s like she lives in a dorm

BEFORE – 60 Euro/doz.                              AFTER – 1.50 Euro/stem

BEFORE – We agree on everything     AFTER – Doesn’t she have a mind of her own?

BEFORE – La Perla, Victoria’s Secret     AFTER – Fruit-of-the-Loom, So-En

BEFORE – Idol                                            AFTER – Idle

BEFORE – I love a woman with curves     AFTER – I never said you were fat

BEFORE – Time stood still     AFTER – This relationship is going nowhere

BEFORE – Croissant and cappuccino     AFTER – Bagel and instant

BEFORE – You look so seductive in black     AFTER – Your clothes are so depressing

BEFORE – Oysters     AFTER – Fishsticks

BEFORE – Passion     AFTER – Ration

BEFORE – Once upon a time     AFTER – The end

It's over

Relationships are one of the most complex aspects of our lives. To decide to end up a relationship when you fall out of love  is easier than being caught in the middle. Middle of what?  Between your mind and heart, of course! This is what I’m going to deal now: loving your partner but for some reasons, you are confused, perhaps, pathetic?!

So, are you having this “too good to leave, too bad to stay” dilemma?? Please read on.

I think it is time I let you go, and that is so hard to do because some part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life, but the daydreaming, the running in place .. it’s not healthy. So this is me, cutting the cord. This is me, doing what I should have done eight months ago … saying goodbye.” –Dawsons Creek

“I don’t know if I should end up our relationship”, Gianna confided sadly as we were having our cappuccino together. “Are you happy with your relationship?” I asked her searching for a glint of joy in her blue eyes. She fumbled her fingers inside her bag looking for her pack of cigarette as she answerd with confusion in her voce: ” I am sure I love him but he is always hurting me. He doesn’t trust me. He is controlling my life… what to wear, where I go, what I eat. I feel I’m loosing my identity.”

I continued listening as I stir up the froth of my cappuccino. The sensual bubbles popping in and out aroused  my  personal experiences and memories…where I’ve learned my mistakes and the real facts of life!

Being in a relationship is not an easy thing. It requires effort and commitment of both partners. One person can’t carry it alone. There should be a mutual attraction (physical, sexual, intellectual, etc), respect, interest, compromise etc.

When one of these factors is missing, be ready for trouble.

You might even try to save a relationship because you love the person who is not receptive but I think such attempts will be doomed to fail .  Even if you will succeed, you  will feel a tremendous toll that  drags you down the dumps!

Do you know when to break up? It can be a very dismal area, especially if you have invested a lot of time and emotions in your relationship.

I will try to cite out some points which I think are very important to consider whether to cut off or continue; to leave or to stay.

1. Physical abuse: Hitting. Slapping. Punching. Kicking. Shoving/Pushing. Quick, get out now!     If you are a masochist, stay!


2. Verbal abuse.  Common in many relationships, especially among teenagers. If you are constantly being put down by someone – break up!  If you are too proud and feel like God, then you need this kind of humiliation, stay!


3. No Respect.  If there is no mutual respect in your relationship, if you are disillusioned or disgusted by your partner, the work to gain that respect back is very difficult to achieve.     Leave!   If you are dumb, stay!


4. No Trust. If you do not trust your partner or vice-versa, imagine how many arguments and sleepless nights you both will have. Who needs that?  If you can’t forgive each other’s transgressions, then resentment will gradually replace love. Leave.  If you suffer from insomnia, stay!


5.  No fun together.  A relationship that’s no fun is dead. Leave.  If you are suicidal, stay!


6.  No shared goals and dreams. If you aren’t planning to spend your future together, something’s terribly wrong. Take off!    Are you commitmentphobe?, stay!


I believe  a relationship should enhance your life, not drain it. You’ll do a lot more good giving yourself to someone who’s more receptive to what you have to offer and who genuinely appreciates you for it.

If you’re spending your relationship fighting resistance more than sharing love, you’re probably better off letting it go and embracing a relationship that will provide greater mutual rewards for less work or live alone!

I added two sachets of sugar, stirring like creating tsunami whirlpools in my cup of cappuccino. Slowly, my lips meet the rim of my cup, smelling its rich aroma. Savoring  its reinvigorating concoction, I held Gianna’s hand and  said:

“Unless you have one love, big faith, and endless hope which supersedes everything, no matter what the circumstances are, you will find your answer. But then again, can you love enough to go willingly insane?”

If you are going to ask me, honestly: “I can not!”




The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” – Mother Teresa

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller

The hottest love has the coldest end.” – Socrates

When loving hearts are separated, not the one which is exhaled to heaven, but the survivor, it is which tastes the sting of death.” – Duchesse de Praslin

Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” –Kahlil Gibran

In a separation it is the one who is not really in love who says the more tender things.” – Marcel Proust

“Lovers may break our hearts, but only love can truly heal it.” – Les Vierges

To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.” – Bess Myerson

We are never so helplessly unhappy as when we lose love.”



‘Writing to me is simply thinking through my fingers.” Isaac Asimov

I started writing my blog not solely for  an audience but as a channel for my thoughts, my experiences, my passions and my addiction to quotes. I didn’t realize the power of the Good Spirit will accompany my words and give life to them.  A Life that breathes inspiration and touches my reader’s heart and mind.

When I think and put it into writing, it is like sowing a seed. I do not know what will happen to that seed. Will it grow and bear fruits?

After three months of sowing, I can see my seeds growing slowly through a positive response from my readers. Some never commented on my posts but they showed their presence by nominating me among the top 10 emerging and influential blogs or  blogging to fame . Others would add me up to technoractic and subscribe to my feeds.

Some became my friends and met them in real life, the rest  remained faceless friends and leave their marks on my posts, add me up in their blogrolls or transmit me a blogger’s virus called meme perhaps thinking I have something nutty to say … and the latest??


                                  Thinking Blogger Award

I have been given the Thinking Blogger Award by AcquireWisdom !! Isn’t it great?? The Good Spirit made him think or better still,  reflect?!!

I think, therefore I blog is a parody of Cogito ergo sum and it is what I am!  Thank you Sam of Acquire Wisdom and for everyone who has been touch by the Good Spirit…PAX et BONUM!!!

The originator of the award, Ilker Yoldas at The Thinking Blog has some rules:

  1. If, and only if, you get tagged, write a post with links to 5 blogs that make you think
  2. Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme
  3. Optional: Proudly display the ‘Thinking Blogger Award’ with a link to the post that you wrote (here is an alternative silver version if gold doesn’t fit your blog). That was that! Please, remember to tag blogs with real merits, i.e. relative content, and above all – blogs that really get you thinking!

Now  I would like to pass this award to:

Liz strauss – whose manifesto “I will live as a writer who keeps alive the music of the language, holds head and heart together in the words, and writes in hope and passion that one person will be better because he or she reads what I wrote” , inspired me to improve my contents.

Camille– whose unusual meme gave me the courage to face my past life.

Claudia -for her delicate and smooth flowing artistic insights.

Filipino Photographers – I like the expressions and life they have captured through their lens.

Janet – for her reflective thinking blog and her initiative to encourage a recognition for the top ten emerging influential blogs.

I’m posting Janet’s overall ranking of the blogs submitted for the third week so I could have the chance to know each one of them, except for myself of course! To each one of you, my kudos and hope that our mind will be an instrument for a “better world” within ourselves and outside us!

  1. An Apple a Day
  2. Kubiertos
  3. Make Money Online with a 13-Year Old
    Culture Shiok!
  4. Make Money Online with Dosh Dosh
  5. The D Spot
    The Philosophical Bastard
  6. Confessions of a Hopeless Romantic
    It’s not only fruity, it’s oaty!
    Studies in Technopreneurship
  7. I Heart Manila
    Quotes in Can
  8. C5’s How to Solve the Problem
    Career Ramblings
    Life is Good
    Make Money Online with Ja Kel Daily
    Successful Blogging Tips by Gary Conn
    The Dork Factor
  9. from the boondocKs
    Letters to Mikee
    Make Money Online Free: Courtney Tuttle
    My Tech Life
    Net Business Blog
    Ryan ShamusSmartWealthyRichSolo Mother
    Thirty Thousand Fishes
  10. Annamanila
    Cheese to go with my whine
    Fighting Gravity
    goodness graciousness
    Lakwatsera Ako
    My Filipino Wedding
    occupation: SAHM
    Pinoy Seminars
    Rising Sun
    Shouting my whispers to the universe
    Teacher Gee
    The Comic Blurb
    Worldwide Success

Let’s think through our fingers… 


Unprovided with original learning, unformed in the habits of thinking, unskilled in the arts of composition, I resolved to write a book.” Edward Gibbon

I always wrote with the idea that what I put out there is going to stay there. Once I publish something, it has been published. I’ve never deleted more than one or two posts from my site. I don’t think that there are takebacks. I don’t feel right about it. ” –
Alison Headley

A scrupulous writer, in every sentence that he writes, will ask himself at least four questions, thus: 1. What am I trying to say? 2. What words will express it? 3. What image or idiom will make it clearer? 4. Is this image fresh enough to have an effect?” – George Orwell

This is pretty much what journals are all about, at least to me. I knew as I wrote them that even though they provided an excellent place for brain (and heart, and psyche) dump, they were mainly a map of me.” – Colleen Wainwright

Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.”- Cyril Connolly

Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original: whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it.” – C.S. Lewis

When I get ready to talk to people, I spend two thirds of the time thinking what they want to hear and one third thinking about what I want to say.” – Abraham Lincoln

The ‘how’ thinker gets problems solved effectively because he wastes no time with futile ‘ifs’.” – Norman Vincent Peale