When you forgive, you set a prisoner free. And then you discover that the prisoner was you.”– Lewis Smedes

It’s past midnight, I have darkness as my pillow and clock’s ticking as my elusive mantra searching for an answer within me. Lately, I have been receiving a lot of sms’ asking me “how are you?” but this time, I received an offer from Hire Me via PayPerPost Direct!

 to write about:

How are you?

This is a very unique offer. It did not happen by chance. I believe it is the Good Spirit’s way of nudging me to stop and look inside myself, or perhaps,  asking me to revive my blog site.

As I listen to the clock’s tapping sound, surprisingly, it transported me to the music of India.Aire’s “Wings of Forgiveness” .  Now, I have my answer!


There are many sources of pains and hurts which lie within us and I am convinced the only root has to do with unresolved issues within ourselves.

Forgiveness may be the key that would unlock a lot of those hurts yet, why are we struggling with forgiveness? I have two reasons: we cannot forgive ourselves and we cannot forgive God.  This is a gross! you’ll tell me.

However, I challenge you to look deep down inside you. Look at your thoughts, your secrets, your past, your fears, your insecurities, the people you like and you don’t, your behavior. We are afraid of not being loved or accepted if we reveal  our true face and value.

We cannot forgive easily who deliberately and deeply wound us by slander and gossip; a betrayal by a friend or partner; an abusive parent or relative; a non-paying debtor? a rapist or a murderer? We seem to lost our self-esteem. We don’t have that building confidence to move forward and let go. We become imprisoners of our own fears and unconsciously we cannot forgive ourselves. Those issues become unresolved within ourselves. Looking inside me, it is enough to make me crawl in shame and hide.

Likewise, I said it is hard to forgive God. How many of us have asked, “Where is God and what is he doing when good, decent or poor people hurt, deeply and unfairly?” Sometimes life doesn’t seem fair and we can’t figure it out.

A woman prays for seven years to have a child and never gets one while another gets an abortion to get rid of what that woman wants more than anything in life. One follows all the rule of good health and dies of a brain tumor at thirty-five; her friend abuses his body with alcohol, smoke and drug and lives to be ninety. Children turning out differently from the way we had hoped and dreamed, or, one of our kids tragically dies still in their tender years and we don’t understand? There are too many cases of contradictions around us, too vague to accept and comprehend.

This then become another unresolved issue within ourselves every-time we have a direct experiece of “life is unfair!” or “God is unfair!”.

So, how am I? Honestly, I am struggling with forgiveness. I want to forgive completely. I desire to close the cycle of “we hurt, we hate, we heal, we reconcile” in a shorter time.

The last phase is difficult: reconciling or restoring a broken relationship no matter how seriously it was damaged.  I need a Supreme Grace to achieve it. I need to forgive myself to be free for I believe forgiveness will release me from the punishment of a self-made prison where I am both the inmate and the jailer.

Am I doing good?  Tell me.

How are you? Come stai nanetto? 😉

ti ringrazio per questa offerta. Ma come sei molto abile a togliere la mia attenzione da tante distrazione ed riaverla per te questa volta! Sei davvero un buon amico,  sempre pronto a costruire un altro ponte al costo di pagare 😉  Alla prossima volta, metti un po’ di piu’ 😀



If we practice and eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, soon the whole world will be blind and toothless.” – Mahatma Gandhi

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” – Catherine Ponder

The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise. – Alden Nowlan

Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them? – Abraham Lincoln

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. – Mahatma Gandhi

He who forgiveth, and is reconciled unto his enemy, shall receive his reward from God; for he loveth not the unjust doers. – Koran

To err is human; to forgive, divine. – Alexander Pope

Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” – Jesus (Luke 23:34 )

Forgiveness is choosing to love. It is the first skill of self-giving love. –Mahatma Gandhi

I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note–torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. – Henry Ward Beecher

We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies.” –Voltaire

A mature Christian has capacity to absorb the offenses and weaknesses of others, not just demand they perform up to the code of ideals. –Stephen Crosby

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. –Cherie Carter-Scott

The offender never pardons. –George Herbert

He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.-George Herbert

Resentment is like a glass of poison that a man drinks; then he sits down and waits for his enemy to die.—Unknown

Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively. – David McArthur & Bruce McArthur

A Christian will find it cheaper to pardon than to resent. Forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, and the waste of spirit. –Hannah More

Forgiveness means that you’ve decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. –Doc Childre and Howard Martin

Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time—just like it does for you and me. –Sara Paddison

Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting. –William A. Ward

You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well. –Lewis B. Smedes

It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.-William Blake

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. –Robert Quillen

It is very easy to forgive others their mistakes; it takes more grit and gumption to forgive them for having witnessed your own. –Jessamyn West

Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever. –Lord Chesterfield

Don’t tell friends their social faults; they will cure the fault and never forgive you. –Logan Pearsall Smith

Forgiveness is . . . accepting God’s sovereign use of people and situations to strip you of self importance, and humiliate your self love. –Martha Kilpatrick

Without deep humility, true forgiveness is impossible…and will never happen. –Martha Kilpatrick

Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me. –Anonymous

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heal that has crushed it. –Mark Twain

Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoes revenge, and dares forgive an injury. –E. H. Chapin

There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.- Josh Billings

Humanity is never so beautiful as when praying for forgiveness, or else forgiving another. -Jean Paul Richter

Forgiveness is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again. –Dag Hammarskjold

We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck . . . But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness. –Ellen Goodman

Forgiveness is the final form of love. –Reinhold Niebuhr

Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness. –H. Jackson Brown

Not to forgive is to be imprisoned by the past, by old grievances that do not permit life to proceed with new business. Not to forgive is to yield oneself to another’s control… to be locked into a sequence of act and response, of outrage and revenge, tit for tat, escalating always. The present is endlessly overwhelmed and devoured by the past. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. It extracts the forgiver from someone else’s nightmare.” – Lance Morrow

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” –

Jesus (Matthew 18:21–22)

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