Happiness is a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. ” – Nathaniel Hawthorne

   It’s Sunday and I’m alone in my room. Listening to the pitter-patter of the rain while watching an old film, The Bridges of Madison Country.  It is about two people who find the promise of perfect personal happiness, and understand, with sadness and acceptance, that the most important things in life are not always about making yourself happy!

I looked outside the window. I can’t see the sun. It’s hiding behind the clouds, like me…hiding my feelings.

Is there such a soul  who can recognize the grandeur and timelessness of passion in another person?  Perhaps it is a connection through a passing gaze that locks the two forever in familiarity. Unfortunately, there are circumstances and limitations which are presently existing and one has to deny, to rationalize, and to suppress this divine meeting of providence.

The rain continued pouring, getting stronger as I remember one evening of December last year.  I unexpectedly met Ivoh, someone whom I haven’t seen nor heard for more than twenty five years! We had a very short lived and adventurous relationship in the past. Yet, for one choice I had to make, I left this person without a trace.

Twenty five years…we have woven different stories, different experiences and different status in life.
Twenty five years…yet this person carries within memories of “us” together as if it happened only yesterday! The richness and positiveness of what this person’s mind can remember about me is absolutely astounding!

I never knew this kind of emotion could exist. Pure, timeless, strong, vivid!

Ivoh’s email and note
“I’m happy I found you again!” , “My love for you never changed“, Ivoh told me.

A confirmation similar to what Robert told Francesca in Clint Eastwood’s “The Bridges of Madison County:
“I have one thing to say, one thing only; I’ll never say it another time, to anyone and I ask you to remember it: In a universe of ambiguity, this kind of certainty comes only once, and never again, no matter how many lifetimes you live. -”

Once in a lifetime, I found this certainty of a dream so beautiful finding its supreme completion in a person but alas, reality is different from dreams!

I have to make my choices and think of the consequences...

Ivoh boarded the plane back to U.S., back to a wedlock where Ivoh rightfully belongs!

I sigh! Like the sound of the rain washing away my emotional lethargy.
Drops of rain gleamed on my window stopping my thoughts in silence. Wishing each droplets would carry my message to Ivoh: “Thank you for the love and please forgive my taciturn self.”

A thunder flashes its dreadful light awakening in me a sad reality: it is not possible!
The most important things in life do not  always  equate to happiness!


To my co blogger Sam, this is one possible answer to your QA Exchange Solution


Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves.” – Hellen Keller

What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life.” – Leo Buscaglia

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” – Albert Camus

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” – Albert Schweitzer

There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year’s course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” – Carl Jung

Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin Roosevelt

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.” – George sand

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” -Dalai Lama

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” – Hellen Keller

The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?” – Henry David Thoreau

All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within.” – Horace Friess

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.” James Oppenheim

The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make heaven of Hell, and a hell of Heaven.” -John Milton

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” – M. Scott Peck

More happiness quotes to follow

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

Happiness is a Swedish sunset — it is there for all, but most of us look the other way and lose it. – Mark Twain

People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.” – Ramona Anderson

Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert Heinlein

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

People take different roads seeking fulfilment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.” -H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can.

Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

There is one elementary truth – the ignorance of which kills countless splendid plans.

The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one, that would never otherwise have occurred, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.

Boldness has genius, power and magic in it, begin it now. ” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Fear less, hope more;
Whine less, breathe more;
Talk less, say more;
Hate less, love more;
And all good things are yours.
Swedish Proverb

The Kingdom of Heaven is within you.” – Jesus Christ

Life is a bridge. Cross over it, but build no house on it .” – Indian Proverb

The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” – Woody Allen

My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I’m happy. I can’t figure it out. What am I doing right?” – Charles M Schulz

The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.” Erasmus

Everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional and a spiritual.

Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless we go into every room, every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person.” – Indian Proverb

The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.”- Maricel Pagnol

Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” – Stacey Charter

Happiness is like a kiss…you must share it to enjoy it.” – Anonymous

18 Responses to “ONCE IN A LIFETIME”


    So sad to read about this, Ross. Yes, not everything that can make one happy should be pursued. We always, always must take into consideration everyone around us. Sometimes, it’s easy to be selfish and just forget everything. But at the end of the day, it’s always back to ‘am I truly happy being happy while hurting somebody else?’. Sucks eh?

    And the rain tripled the sadness I’m pretty sure. And Bridges of Madison County… wow! That is the only book/movie that made me cry so much it hurts just recalling the story.

    I hope you’d be okay soon. And this may sound cliche but there is someone destined for you. I hope you find him (or he finds you) soon :)



    I’m doing good Sasha, thanks!

    I just remembered Ivoh because of the film. :)
    Love is a very intricate process, it involves choices and consequences ❗



    *nagpapatugtog ng Maalaala Mo Kaya….* para po may background music…

    hey ross, nangungulit lang po, just trying to make you smile. ingat ka dyan. mmmmwah!



    Sometimes in life, and it happens still right until now, I don’t know what’s right anymore and I dunno what really makes me happy. To me, I think my lifetime would never be enough for me to finally realize what really are the things and the people which will make me absolutely complete.

    So as I walk on this life, I just continue to hold on to the things I believe that make me happy.

    (Am I making sense? :lol:)




    of course you are making sense!

    Life is not static, so are you, k?

    Life changes…so whatever makes you happy on this present time, perhaps ” tomorrow”, you’ll find it distressing!

    Life is a learning process, your criterion will change…for people, for things, for your goals or priority.

    Carpe Diem Jake…please don’t worry!




    It is difficult to find happiness when one is discontent…if one worries…if you think too much of tomorrow and linger too much on the past that you lost the blessings of today…



    wow mamacee… gustung gusto ko yang sinabi mo! 😀
    trulili yan. pero di ba sabi nga ang tao di naman marunong makuntento?




    very well said!! I say AMEN to that! 😉




    mejo ikakabit ko na jan sa tanong mo ang sagot ko ke Jake at sagot din ni C5…

    Generally, ang tao hindi talaga makontento. Pag mainit, gusto umulan. Pag umulan, gusto umaraw, etc

    Isa lang secreto: tiknan mo ano meron ka ask yourself..masaya ka ba kung anong meron ka?

    kung hindi, yun makakabigay sa iyo ng contentment, kaya mo bang abutin?

    kung hindi pa rin, tiknan mo puso mo,

    andun lang yun naka upo!

    Hinihintay na tiknan mo sya because you can never find happiness in person or things…it’s In your heart…waiting for you to share it….




    hi ros,

    what a touching story.
    there’s love like that, lingering…really.
    i remember three days ago..i saw my classmate from elem.days. he txted me on my way home. confessing that i was the one he really loved. i didn’t know about his feeling for me… the feeling he supressed for 19 years! i told him he’s my cousin..a distant relationship by blood. for which he didn’t believe…times changed, but his feelings remained.. feelings that i didn’t know existed in him. he said, “it could have been possible for us…”

    we have our own families now. i felt that he was not happy with his married life the way he texted me those words..but life is like that…

    God bless you and may happiness always be with you..and Ivoh, wherever he is…



    *nakikibasa ng diskurso tungkol sa kaligayahan. nagmamasid-masid baka timing na mapadaan dito ang kaligayahan eh. sabi kasi nung poem na natutunan ko nung nasa elementary pa ako, happiness runs in a circular motion, floats like a little boat upon the sea. Everybody is a part of anything, anywhere. You can be happy if you let yourself be. paki-konek na rin po kung saan pwedeng i-konek* 😀



    Hi D-,

    thank you for this testimonial of a lingering love. I’m glad to know someone like you has been blessed by this…

    Enjoy your Life to the Max!



    hahaha tuwang-tuwa ako sa song na ito talaga. kasi nung bata pata pa ako at kinakanta namin ito (may kasamang laro ito eh, i remember), ganyan ang lyrics na alam namin (yung isinulat ko). in high school, we often recite it in our girl scouting activities. dun ko lang nalaman mali ang lyrics na alam ko nung elementary heheheh.




    I haven’t heard of it except last night…yun video ganun ba yun?
    Hindi rin ako nag girl scout…nabawasan kaya yun kaligayahan ko when I was a kid ❓



    Don’t think that somebody laughs at you.Just
    remember that you are giving happiness to SOMEONE…..



    i just thought that married life is the happiest point of my life.:`-



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