And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” — Kahlil Gibran

Yesterday while I was in a Wi Fi Hotspot area in Milan browsing my emails, I overheard another girl sniffling quietly at her computer. A glance in her direction revealed a live Web-cam feed of a young man alongside an instant-messaging chat box. She typed her goodbye, closed the window containing his image, and wiped her eyes before walking away.

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I felt a powerful emotional punch inside me. I saw myself in her, we are both living a long distance relationship or LDR in short. I remember my “significant other” I left in Manila. A fresh memory of a warm body and a smiling face next to me is what I have now. My laptop and my mobile phone substituted that loving figure. Every waking hour, my hand would search out for my cp under my pillow to check if there’s any message from my “special one”.  As I stand up, still half awake, I would turn on my pc wanting to know if an email from my “partner” has reached my inbox and as I walk slowly inside the bathroom, my heart wishes for a short call, where my ears could hear a voice whispering ” I love You”, ” I miss you”, ” Take care”, or whatever.

These “technological intimacies” are all I need to perk up my day.

Being into a long distance relationship means we have to meet halfway. My sunrise would mean my partner’s sunset. It means passing our day without synchronization of our feelings, needs, desires or brain waves. Sometimes, anger or discouragement creeps in, particularly, when one is having a rotten day and a loving presence is necessary at that given moment but ends up frustrated because the “other half” is still sleeping!

Every sunset I feel a struggle between  what I’ll call my “Euro-Self” and my “Fil-Self”. My euro-self is experiencing positive cash flows, is marveling at europe’s historical, art and cultural heritage and is talking in different language. While my Fil-self, the loving partner and soon to be entrepreneur has been temporarily left behind!

Should I give up? I don’t think so. Long distance relationship is challenging and difficult but is NOT impossible! I believe it has the same chance of succeeding as any other relationship. Trust, honesty and communication are important ingredients plus adding creativity will make the waiting less painful.

With the right amount of effort and interest on both parts, a long distance relationship can survive the obstacles it will frequently be challenged with. As long as we both refresh our memories of why we chose to do this in the first place, trust each other, inform one another of our personal lives, keep in touch, avoid guilt-tripping, and visit, our relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.  Achieving these, both of us will be secure, happy and satisfied until the day comes when we will re-unite for good and build our wonderful future together

Meeting halfway  while waiting is our commitment because we believe in love …and perhaps we’ll be following our “destiny” (?) who knows!

They say: “Love which has been tested by distance, time and obstacles, and has passed, is true love“.
Therefore, I say to myself and to you: Don’t let discouragement gets in your way!

One last thing, experiencing a long distance relationship with my “significant other” is like living my faith in God. It’s like a long distance relationship  too. I don’t see Him physically BUT I can feel His love for me. He doesn’t send sms, emails or fax but His gestures of assurances of His presence through the people I meet or interact everyday; His language through the beauty of nature and my daily experiences in life suffice to tell me: He is with me!

It’s cool to be loved even if I don’t see the person…just like my online friends here! :)

Long distance relationship is possible.

What do you think?

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

QUOTES

There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” – Mahatma Gandhi

What greater thing is there for two human souls that to feel that they are joined… to strengthen each other… to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.” – George Eliot

Loving you from a distance has taught me that even though it hurts, it’s all worth it when I get to see you smile and hold you in my arms for the first time in months … it has taught me that true love doesn’t care about the distance, nor does it care about the age difference. It has taught me that even though it’s hard to miss you, you’re always in my dreams. It has taught me the true meaning of lonliness, and of the true beauty of the stars. I think that us being apart has only strengthened our friendship, and I know that next time you come home … we’ll be just like we were before.” – Anonymous

Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.” – Thomas Fuller

Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and blows up the bonfire.” – Francois de la Rouchefoucauld

Can miles truly separate you from friends? If you want to be with someone you love, aren’t you already there?” – Richard Bach

I looked in all the places you aren’t. I just can’t find the places you are. I only know that you are where I am not.” – Winnie the Pooh

“And I will love him no matter what you say. You are simply too immature to understand that love does stretch for miles and miles. So you just be an immature little kid looking for love in all the wrong places, and I will be content with mine right where it is, not all those miles away, but in my heart, and in his heart, where distance does not matter.” – Anonymous

If I go away
What would still remain of me?
The ghost within your eyes?
The whisper in your sighs?
You see…
Believe
And I’m always there.” – Jon Oliva

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.” – Kay Nudsen

In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.” – Hans Nouwens

That farewell kiss which resembles greeting, that last glance of love which becomes the sharpest pang of sorrow.” – George Eliot

Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.” – Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? – Stephen Levine

Think of me fondly when we’ve said good bye. Remember me, once in a while. Please promise me you’ll try. When you find that once again you long to take your heart back and be free, if you ever find a moment spare a thought for me.” – Andrew Webber, “Phantom of the Opera”

And what we got is something special, and what we are is a perfect match, and three-thousand miles can never come between us. No matter what we do it’s always you and me.” – Juliana theory, “Goodnight Starlight”

Saying good-bye to you today is the hardest thing i’ll ever have to do, and when i get back, i can honestly swear that i’ll never do it again. I love you now for what we’ve already shared, and I love you now in anticipation for all that’s to come. You are the best thing that ever happened to me. I miss you already, but i’m sure in my heart that you’ll be with me always. In the few days i spent with you, you became my dream.'” – Nights in Rodanthe by Nicholas Sparks

More Long Distance Quotes to follow…

Gaze up at the stars knowing that I see the same sky and wish the same sweet dreams.” – Elizabeth Barret Browning

Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” – Henry Winkler

You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.” – Frederick Buechner

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.” – Dinah Shore

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” – Flavia Weedn, Forever

Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you’re really strangers.” – Mary Tyler Moore

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” – From the movie Annie

Where you are is where I want to be. And through your eyes all the things I want to see. And in the night you are my dream. You are everything to me.” – Dave Matthews Band

I miss you a little, I guess you could say…. a little too much, a little too often, a little more every day.” – John Michael Montgomery

I won’t ever be too far away to feel you.” – Mariah Carey

So yeah, maybe we didn’t talk to this summer, but who knows maybe we’ll find ourselves talking less and less as time goes on and life gets more and more demanding. I gotta say jo, i don’t feel it cause you’re with me everywhere I go.” – Dawson’s Creek

If I had to run; if I had to crawl; if I had to swim a hundred rivers just to climb a thousand walls. Always know that I will find a way to get to where you are.” – Sara Evans

I think that I find the LDR more congenial than some people might, because I like quite a lot of space and downtime. I am irretrievably introverted in the Myers-Briggs universe, and time to myself to recharge is important. I quite like spending time with myself. Which is good, because in a LDR, that’s what happens.” – New Kid

You know that place between sleep and awake? Where you still remember dreaming? That’s where I will always think of you.” – Tinkerbell

Say goodnight not good-bye, you will never leave my heart behind. Like the path of a star, I’ll be anywhere you are.” – Beth Nielsen Chapman, “Say Goodnight”

Long Distance is one long honeymoon. It begins and ends with the persons arrival and departure.
Parmalicious

I miss you most when I’m sad. I miss you when I’m lonely. But most of all, I miss you when I’m happy.” – from Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul

To truly love something, you must first give it a chance to fail. If it survives, it is going to be stronger than ever. Distance is pure proof of this, and forever we will love if we survive.” – Anonymous

“..contrary to what the cynics say, distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough…” – Article in Oprah magazine

To see you when I wake up is a gift I didn’t think could be real, to know that you feel the same as I do is a three-fold utopian dream. You do something to me that I can’t explain, so would I be out of line if I said I miss you?” -Incubus

I miss you like the sun misses the flowers, like the sun misses the flowers in the depths of winter, instead of beauty to direct it’s light to, the heart hardens like the frozen world which your absence has banished me to.” – William in “A Knight’s Tale

[voice over] How’s your sunset?
Kate: It’s perfect.
Alex: I only wish you were here to share it with me. – Keanu Reeves, The Lake House

Though the miles between us are many, the heart is a bridge that can span the largest oceans. Thus, we shall always be close, as long as we are in each other’s hearts.” – Anonymous

Here in my heart, that´s where you´ll be; you´ll be with me, here in my heart. No distance can keep us apart, long as you´re here in my heart.” – Diane Warren

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