Don’t be discouraged by a failure. It can be a positive experience. Failure is, in a sense, the highway to success, in as much as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some.” – John Keats (english romantic poet 1795-1821)

I don’t know exactly what time is it, the song Life is a Highway by Tom Cochran is being played on the radio when suddenly,  I see a slim teenager waving her thumb.

Hitchhiker

I decided to stop my car, a gesture of trust which I never did before every time I see a hitchhiker. This time I sense a feeling of familiarity when I opened my window and asked her: “where are you heading?”

“No where, I just needed a ride”, she said. I opened my door and let her in. I decided to invite someone into my personal space. I’m the driver and host,  she’s my guest.

The song Life is a Highway is still playing and she quipped: “the road is rough”!  I sensed she is not referring to the physical road but to life itself. I begin to ask some questions yet respecting her personal space.

Ross:                          Where are you going?

Hitchhiker:               I don’t know. I ran away from home!

Ross:                           Oh! How old are you?

Hitchhiker:                I ‘m old enough to know the difference between right and wrong. Chronologically, I’m 16.

Ross:                          Do you have any other interest aside from hitchhiking? (trying to avoid the topic of her previous statement)

Hitchhiker:               I’m a very sociable person. I ‘m quite known in our campus as a school player in some sports like volleyball, basketball and chess. I’m a choreographer, sometimes I direct plays. Because of these activities, I have a lot of supporters and friends around me plus a dozen of enemies too!  Uhmn, I’m not being conceited , okay? It’s just a fact and this is what irks my father the most! He doesn’t like the crowd I’m getting into or maybe because I skip school a lot! The classroom bores me. It limits my pace and way of thinking. I would have appreciated if they would change uhhmn …it into a “Socratic method of teaching!”

Ross:              (listening attentively, avoiding to be judgemental)

Hitchhiker:          My father thinks I’m not smart and wise…that I should learn to live his “surname”…to carry it with dignity!

Geez, he even cut off my allowance and grounded me for truancy. I thought of showing him I’m not that stupid at all!  Can I smoke?

Ross:                Sure you can. I opened the window, the free wind blowing through my hair carried too many similar settings in my life. Her story is my story too.  I reach out for a stick myself. The puff of smoke silently waited for the next cue.

Hitchiker:                    With aplomb she continued…I ran away to show them I can live life by myself. It has been a week now since then. I left without carrying extra clothes and with just five pesos in my pocket. Now, look what I have now. She showed me her backpack full of things she needed for the travel and money.

Ross:                             What did you do then?
Hitchhiker:                   Laughingly she said, oh…when my friends found out about my situation, they collected money for me and offered their home for me to stay. I wrote poems, love letters, essays, school themes and term papers for some students who are too lazy to think! I did part-time choreography and street painting for money also. I live my day without worrying. I spend my day without hearing someone taunting my incapacity or misdeeds.

Maybe you’ll ask me what did I gain? Well, I have accepted myself. My failures, my mess ups, my life.  I am what I am, because this is how God made me.  I will never stop even when the road is rough!  Isn’t it cool?

Ross:                     The breeze continued to caress my memories…I’m hearing the same words, same experiences too many years back!

Smilingly, I replied… The sad truth, is this: You are just beginning to experience the millions of ways, both great and small, which your Dad and Mom had or will embarrass you during this phase of your life. They don’t do it on purpose. There are times when they seem appallingly clueless, hopelessly out of touch and fundamentally incapable of understanding your music, your friends and your priorities.

When it happens, I’m asking you to please remember that they are doing their best to keep up with you and that the truth is, though the external appearance of the culture or generation may change, there really aren’t that many things it can throw at you that they haven’t already faced/been through/learned from. And if you let them, they can actually be a pretty handy source of information and (dare I say it?) wisdom.

In spite of all the conflicts of perspective between your adult parents and teenager like you, your Dad and Mom will be sticking by your side every step of the way, helping you navigate and cheering you on. They will always be there for you.. They’ll be easy to spot…just look inside your heart.

The life period you are living in now is a sketch of your whole future. You must understand yourself and the people around you and find harmony.
There are many people who can help you or can hurt you.
The only wish I have for you is to find your own way in this life and not to regret about your choice.

Hitchhiker:                  Pensively, she said smilingly. I will remember that. I will not regret of my choice.  Uhmmn…there’s a crossroad ahead. I’ll take off now. Don’t worry about me. I’ll be fine.

Ross:                            Ok…By the way, what ‘s your name?

Hitchhiker:                   Ross!

As she gently closed my car’s door, I just realized I met my own teenage self…she’s now at the crossroad…thinking perhaps which way to choose.

A’journey…this is my reply to your meme . If someone would ask me if there is anything in my life that I should change if given a chance, my answer will be: NONE!

I will thread the same road all over again, not regretting any choice, bad or good!

Borrowing the words of a hitchhiker , please allow me to allude hitchhiking as our way to survive in this life:

Have no expectations, hitchhiking opens one up to marvelous experiences and planning puts a block on anything wonderous that may come your way. It’s better to not be in a hurry, when you hitchhike you are on the whims of life and the best one can do is hang on and LEARN. Hitchhiking is tough and requires a solid mentality, it’s a good way to discover your weaknesses and strengths. It is important to pay attention to your surroundings and be aware!” – Rajam aka roaddog

This meme is originally from Camille passed on to me by A’s Journey.

It is supposed to be a  conversation between your present self and your teenage self… What would you tell your yournger self?

I would like to tag (please reply on your own free will) ReynaElena, C5, Chuva, Betty and anyone who would like to try this meme.

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HIGHWAY QUOTES

I have climbed several higher mountains without guide or path, and have found, as might be expected, that it takes only more time and patience commonly than to travel the smoothest highway.” – Henry David Thoreau (American Essayist, Poet and Philosopher, 1817-1862

There is a road, no simple highway, between the dawn and the dark of night, and if you go, no one may follow, that path is for your steps alone.” – Jerry Garcia

Sound character provides the power with which a person may ride the emergencies of life instead of being overwhelmed by them. Failure is… the highway to success.” – Og Mandino (American Essayist and Psychologist, 1923-1996)

On the highway of life, we most often recognize happiness out of the rear view mirror.” – Frank Tyger

The desire to fly is an idea handed down to us by our ancestors who…looked enviously on the birds soaring freely through space…on the infinite highway of the air.” -Wilbur Wright (American Inventor and aviation pioneer. Brother of Orville Wright. 1867-1912)

A man’s conscience, like a warning line on the highway, tells him what he shouldn’t do / but it does not keep him from doing it.” – Frank Clark

We cannot well do without our sins; they are the highway of our virtue.” – Henry David Thoreau (American Essayist, Poet and Philosopher, 1817-1862)

The safest road to Hell is the gradual one – the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts.” – C.S. Lewis (British Scholar and Novelist. 1898-1963)

The road to success is always under construction.” – Lily Tomlin (American Actress and Comedian. Mark Twain Prize for American Humor in 2003.b.1939)

The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.” – Dale Carnegie (American lecturer, author, 1888-1955)

In the name of the best within you, do not sacrifice this world to those who are its worst. In the name of the values that keep you alive, do not let your vision of man be distorted by the ugly, the cowardly, the mindless in those who have never achieved his title. Do not lose your knowledge that man’s proper estate is an upright posture, an intransigent mind and a step that travels unlimited roads. Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won, it exists, it is real, it is possible, it’s yours.” – Ayn Rand (Russian born American Writer and Novelist, 1905-1982)

All of life is a journey which paths we take, what we look back on, and what we look forward to is up to us. We determine our destination, what kind of road we will take to get there, and how happy we are when we get there.” – Anonymous

33 Responses to “LIFE IS A HIGHWAY”

  1.  

    ano na namang assignment to! hu hu hu! highway? ang gusto ko sa highway eh yong mga rest areas. you know. rest ka piktapos nang long driving. alam mo ba? daming mga gwapong nag-re-rest din? he he he, yon na lang kwento ko. dami pa kamong quotes! :lol:

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  2.  

    Sabi ko na nga ba this is you. Galing! Love the way you attacked this meme, Ross.

    Yes, I do believe that we should never regret a choice we made. That choice is a part of the sum of all choices we made that made us who we are right now.

    I made some pretty bad choices in the past and some of it is haunting me still. But I learned from it, it made me a stronger person and made me closer to my God. So no regrets. That is life. We either make a good or bad decision, and we should learn to live with the consequences whether we like it or not.

    Thanks for sharing a part of you, sis! :)

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  3.  

    I liked very much the way you answered the meme.
    Wonderful post Ross :) very creative!

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  4.  

    InangReyna,

    hahah :lol:
    ok yan mga kwento sa rest areas pero
    yun meme daw eh tungkol sa chikahan mo sa bata mong sarili…heheh ;)

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  5.  

    Sasha,

    thank you so much! Naku Ija, baka ma spoiled ako sa mga papuri mo hanap hanapin ko! heheh

    well, sharing a part of ourselves in public is not easy especially the past ones.

    Pero, inisip ko…baka me mapulot na aral din yun iba o itapon na aral! :lol:

    I’m glad to know your failures made you stronger and closer to God, that’s the importance of negative events.

    Enjoy life Sasha!

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  6.  

    A’s journey,

    Your meme made me sweat a lot ;)
    Yet, it was nice talking to my younger self pointing out parents will always be by her side no matter what…and they did!

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  7.  

    Bravo! This wins the VIRTUOSI MEME award. The Meme is developing into an art form and some enterprising editor will collect them. Yours belongs in the book.

    I found you via, NowCamille. It is interesting to following her links because she finds such creative and interesting people. I am linking here and will come back to see what enterprising thing you come up with next.

    I thought about doing this MEME but admit I chickened out. However, I am enticed by the likes of what you have done.

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  8.  

    Ciao Princess Haiku,

    thank you for your encouraging comment and my appreciation for the Link Camille did on my post.

    It was hard for me to look for my teenage self again…but I’m glad I found her! ;)

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  9.  

    ang ganda naman ng post mo ros…

    i had my own share of dissapointments too with my family…

    sometimes i really miss them kahit malayo ako sa kanila at missing na ang isa…but i learned to fight through life kahit mag-isa…

    siguro ganun talaga ang buhay…

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  10.  

    hay.. super galing talaga. ako d ako part ng meme na yan… kasi teenager pa ako eh! :)) susulat na lang ako… kung kasing edad mo na rin ako ross. heheheh

    pero one thing for sure… i really appreciate your blog.. as in super touchy to the max! :)

    keep on posting and i’ll keep on reading.

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  11.  

    JC,

    salamat sa papuri bunso magagaya na ako ke inang reynz nyan!
    maligayang pagbaba mula sa bundok!! :D
    wala namn perpektong pamilya eh…ano man disappointments mo alam ko nag palakas din yan sa iyo para lumaban sa agos ng buhay.

    **pahid luhang nag break sa pagpatak!

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  12.  

    Angie,

    isa ka pang mambobola pero nakakatulong yan sa akin na mag sulat ng mga madramang post para lagi kang touch to the max! :mrgreen:

    At dahil alam ko din na tamad kang mag comment pero dahil nagsumikap kang mag sulat ng commento d2, tatangapin ko ang mga sinabi mo ;)

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  13.  

    di naman sa tamad… di lang cguro ugali. :) at d ako nambobola… kasi pawang katutuhanan yan. (ayon abot tenga ang ngita ni ross)

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  14.  

    hmmmm… masyadong upper class ang sulat mo, di ko kayang tablahan… hihiya ako… he he he!

    maghahanap akong magsusulat para sakin, den, a-angkinin kong parang akin…

    DIWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

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  15.  

    Hello ros,

    eto at nag-iiwan ako ng marka sa blog mo. hinihintay sana kita magonline bago ako umalis pero wai ako nakitang bakas mo sa ating tagpuan.
    ang galing mong magsulat, kaya naman pag nagcocomment ako dito, ako’y kinakabahan. :D
    may pagkakahawig yong kwento ng kabataan mo sa kin. iba nga lang yong dahilan bakit sila ganon sa kin. :D

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  16.  

    Ghandee aka Atengpazeng :)

    bakit kailangan kang kabahan? hindi namn po ako nangangagat!
    salamat sa papuri na magaling akong mag sulat, translator lang yun fingers ko sa pagtype ng kung iniisip ng katiting kong isip :D

    uyy ikwento yan pagkakahawig ha! Sorry po at hindi ako naka rating sa ating tagpuan.. :oops:

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  17.  

    hello ulit. :D
    dagdagan mo naman tong kwento mo. :)
    wakit sila inang wala pa rin kwento? *kamot ulo*

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  18.  

    I, too, will travel on the same road I’ve been, even if I have made some pretty ugly turns. It’s what I learn from those ugly turns that’s important to me. And it also helps that I am often blessed with second chances in almost after each wrong turn. I am given a chance to make a new maneuver. In the end, it’s being able to move forward that matters.

    Nice post, Ross. Ingat lagi dyan.

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  19.  

    This is such a very great read, and I will even refer this one to some of my friends.

    Keep it up, Ross. Sana ganyan din ako tumahak sa buhay. :)

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  20.  

    Bea,

    I’m so glad to hear that. Keep on walking your road, even if you feel your steps do not have the strength to move forward.

    Take care and spread your love always! ;)

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  21.  

    Jake,

    Thank you once again. You are still young, you will learn! ;)

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  22.  

    Wow Ross…very creative!!!

    And you tagged me??? Argghh…now I’ll have to THINK! LOL

    As for me, I’ll tread the same RIGHT road, which is often narrow, and take the 2nd chance to right the wrong. Having a 2nd chance is the opportunity in itself. But since living my life again from the start has no 2nd chance, it doesn’t change a thing. Minor 2nd chances do appear so that’s the time I’ll right the wrong.

    Since I don’t cry over spilled milk, I just go on. When I’m faced with another chance, I’ll choose. If I chose wrongly, I just go on and suffer whatever consequences that come with the wrong choice. If I chose rightly I still go on…but happier.

    It’s not the number of times one falls, but the number of times one gets up, that’s important.

    Back to the meme…I got to think of a unique way to converse with my teenage self…tracking back is already difficult…with a memory that fails me miserably, argghhhh….

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    Thank you C5,

    of course I tagged you knowing your capacity to write and think! :)
    and age ;)

    It was difficult for me to track back too…but at the end, I took it as a challenge. I know you can do it!

    I absolutely agree with you that what counts is the number of times you get up after each fall…

    **looking at my bad knee :!:

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  24.  

    ibang klase! parang kwento ng pari ang nabasa ko..AMEN to that! ;)

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  25.  

    Hello Jesse,

    Salamat sa pag bisita, baka nag stowaway din yun pari;)

    …alam mo kasi, yun mga taong mejo paliko-pakanan ang daan eh me naikukwento at nalalgay na mensahe :)

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  26.  

    The Keats quote reminds me of one of the first lessons that I ever learned working in sales, that very much applies to marketing online.

    That is, every time you get a potential customer who says no, that is one person closer to the one who wail say “Yes”! Never give up…

    Steve

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  27.  

    Welcome to my site Steve!

    Never give up! That’s absolutely true!

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  28.  

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  29.  

    Hi I love this post so much… partly because it’s related to my theme! Love the rest of your site too :)

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  30.  

    Hello Highway,

    [quote comment="4280"]Hi I love this post so much… partly because it’s related to my theme! Love the rest of your site too :)[/quote]

    Welcome to my site and thank you for the kind words! :)

    I’m glad my post is similar to your blog title.

    Keep it up!

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  31.  

    A round of applause with the blog.Much cheers. Want more.

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    ross Reply:

    @sac balenciaga,

    Thank you Sam.

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  32.  

    Thanks Ross. Beautiful read..:)

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