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Had we not loved ourselves at all, we could never have been obliged to love anything. So that self-love is the basis of all love. – Thomas Traherne (1636-1674), British clergyman, poet, mystic. Fourth Century, no. 55, Centuries (written c. 1672, publ. 1908)
“I wasn’t loved as a child and my family doesn’t understand me” exclaims Teresa, the passenger sitting next to me on my flight to Italy last Saturday. I looked at her eyes and I saw an angry glare. I looked at my heart and I saw that point in my life when I said: “henceforth, I will love myself!”
We should stop blaming our childhood for our misery and stop looking for someone to blame for our feelings of insecurity or unhappiness.
A perfect family doesn’t exist, same thing for any kind of relationships. So what can we do? If you can’t fix it, stop trying. You do not have the magic powder or elixir that will make everyone happy. No one does. Accept them as they are.
But, how can you accept them if you do not know how to accept who you are?
Try a long, hard stare in the bathroom mirror. Do you love what you see in the mirror? Does it show up in how you care for yourself and go about enjoying the gift of life and all the opportunities for Love it has to offer in your daily happening?
Come on, take that mirror and make a heart to heart talk with yourself.
I did that…from that day on, it was self love that has saved me from depression. It was self love that has finally pushed me to seek and stay in a healthy relationship. It was self love that stopped me from spiraling down a well which depth was unknown. It was self love that had picked me up from the ground that I thought I would never stand on again. It was self love that made me discover the immense love of God for me.
I am truly thankful that at a time when in spite of genuinely believing that I had lost everything, I was still able to produce within myself, a tiny dose of feeling people disdainfully address as self love, because it was this feeling that made me who I am today.
If still, the mirror doesn’t work for you, try this magical mantra that you can repeat to yourself at all family/relationships dysfunctions. Memorize it and keep it close at heart: “I’m rubber, you’re glue. Whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.”
I just received an email from Teresa, thanking me for this mantra…and has decided to make an appointment with herself!
Self-love quotes to follow…