Reflections on life. Collections of inspirational quotes. Rediscovering relationships and faith.
Before and after you fall in love: …
BEFORE – You take my breath away AFTER – I feel likeI’m suffocating
BEFORE – Twice a night AFTER – Twice a month
BEFORE – She says she loves the way I take control of a situation AFTER – She calls me a controlling, manipulative egomaniac
BEFORE – Don’t stop AFTER – Don’t start
BEFORE – Is that all you’re having? AFTER – Maybe you should have just a salad, honey
BEFORE – It’s like I’m living in a dream AFTER – It’s like she lives in a dorm
BEFORE – 60 Euro/doz. AFTER – 1.50 Euro/stem
BEFORE – We agree on everything AFTER – Doesn’t she have a mind of her own?
BEFORE – La Perla, Victoria’s Secret AFTER – Fruit-of-the-Loom, So-En
BEFORE – Idol AFTER – Idle
BEFORE – I love a woman with curves AFTER – I never said you were fat
BEFORE – Time stood still AFTER – This relationship is going nowhere
BEFORE – Croissant and cappuccino AFTER – Bagel and instant
BEFORE – You look so seductive in black AFTER – Your clothes are so depressing
BEFORE – Oysters AFTER – Fishsticks
BEFORE – Passion AFTER – Ration
BEFORE – Once upon a time AFTER – The end
Relationships are one of the most complex aspects of our lives. To decide to end up a relationship when you fall out of love is easier than being caught in the middle. Middle of what? Between your mind and heart, of course! This is what I’m going to deal now: loving your partner but for some reasons, you are confused, perhaps, pathetic?!
So, are you having this “too good to leave, too bad to stay” dilemma?? Please read on.
I think it is time I let you go, and that is so hard to do because some part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life, but the daydreaming, the running in place .. it’s not healthy. So this is me, cutting the cord. This is me, doing what I should have done eight months ago … saying goodbye.” –Dawsons Creek
“I don’t know if I should end up our relationship”, Gianna confided sadly as we were having our cappuccino together. “Are you happy with your relationship?” I asked her searching for a glint of joy in her blue eyes. She fumbled her fingers inside her bag looking for her pack of cigarette as she answerd with confusion in her voce: ” I am sure I love him but he is always hurting me. He doesn’t trust me. He is controlling my life… what to wear, where I go, what I eat. I feel I’m loosing my identity.”
I continued listening as I stir up the froth of my cappuccino. The sensual bubbles popping in and out aroused my personal experiences and memories…where I’ve learned my mistakes and the real facts of life!
Being in a relationship is not an easy thing. It requires effort and commitment of both partners. One person can’t carry it alone. There should be a mutual attraction (physical, sexual, intellectual, etc), respect, interest, compromise etc.
When one of these factors is missing, be ready for trouble.
You might even try to save a relationship because you love the person who is not receptive but I think such attempts will be doomed to fail . Even if you will succeed, you will feel a tremendous toll that drags you down the dumps!
Do you know when to break up? It can be a very dismal area, especially if you have invested a lot of time and emotions in your relationship.
I will try to cite out some points which I think are very important to consider whether to cut off or continue; to leave or to stay.
1. Physical abuse: Hitting. Slapping. Punching. Kicking. Shoving/Pushing. Quick, get out now! If you are a masochist, stay!
2. Verbal abuse. Common in many relationships, especially among teenagers. If you are constantly being put down by someone – break up! If you are too proud and feel like God, then you need this kind of humiliation, stay!
3. No Respect. If there is no mutual respect in your relationship, if you are disillusioned or disgusted by your partner, the work to gain that respect back is very difficult to achieve. Leave! If you are dumb, stay!
4. No Trust. If you do not trust your partner or vice-versa, imagine how many arguments and sleepless nights you both will have. Who needs that? If you can’t forgive each other’s transgressions, then resentment will gradually replace love. Leave. If you suffer from insomnia, stay!
5. No fun together. A relationship that’s no fun is dead. Leave. If you are suicidal, stay!
6. No shared goals and dreams. If you aren’t planning to spend your future together, something’s terribly wrong. Take off! Are you commitmentphobe?, stay!
I believe a relationship should enhance your life, not drain it. You’ll do a lot more good giving yourself to someone who’s more receptive to what you have to offer and who genuinely appreciates you for it.
If you’re spending your relationship fighting resistance more than sharing love, you’re probably better off letting it go and embracing a relationship that will provide greater mutual rewards for less work or live alone!
I added two sachets of sugar, stirring like creating tsunami whirlpools in my cup of cappuccino. Slowly, my lips meet the rim of my cup, smelling its rich aroma. Savoring its reinvigorating concoction, I held Gianna’s hand and said:
“Unless you have one love, big faith, and endless hope which supersedes everything, no matter what the circumstances are, you will find your answer. But then again, can you love enough to go willingly insane?”
If you are going to ask me, honestly: “I can not!”
I LOVE YOU, IT’S OVER!!!
BREAK UP QUOTES
The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” – Mother Teresa
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller
The hottest love has the coldest end.” – Socrates
When loving hearts are separated, not the one which is exhaled to heaven, but the survivor, it is which tastes the sting of death.” – Duchesse de Praslin
Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” –Kahlil Gibran
In a separation it is the one who is not really in love who says the more tender things.” – Marcel Proust
“Lovers may break our hearts, but only love can truly heal it.” – Les Vierges
To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.” – Bess Myerson
We are never so helplessly unhappy as when we lose love.”