Sex in relationships

Mar

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First, I would like to warn my younger siblings, my Mom and relatives not to read this post knowing I have projected a different image:

a virginal paradigm !!!

I do not want to offend your moral sensibilities. However, if you want to know me more and perhaps learn something from what I have to say, then please read on without displeasure.

“Laughter is the best tension reliever and sex is second. So if you’re having funny sex you’re probably in good shape.” -Mark Gorkin

The other night we were at The Plaza taking our usual “espresso”, listening to a live band’s rendition of “Turn me on” By Norah Jones. Suddenly, Isabella, my pretty officemate blurted out: “I’m having a nightly ritual boring, sex life!” We started gigling at the topic and begun teasing her.

I’m not a sex guru, ok? I am not pretending to teach how to improve one’s sex life.
These are just my two cents.

I’ve observed a prevailing attitude: to overdramatize and overemphasize the importance of our sexuality. How many of us are wondering : “how many orgasms…”, ” how big is my…”, “am I a good lover…” ? etc. I assume our childhood experiences have something to do about it.

We have been taught to be ashamed, embarrassed, guilty and generally uncomfortable about sex. It’s hard to be relaxed about something so taboo we can’t talk about it in public. My premise shows it.

Many of us have been frightened about our sexuality. Some children are traumatized by the overreactions of adults who catch them experimenting, masturbating or even just reading erotic magazines. We have read about news or we’ve learned from relatives, neighbors and friends about children who are abused or seduced and thereby made to feel powerless about sex. While others are frightened by visions of hell and damnation because of their sexual orientations. Usually, children have that idea that sex is something “bad.”

We didn’t learn that sex is natural, fun, simple and a blessing. What would happen if we put in humor and fun into our sexual lives? Perhaps doing a Matrix style where partners put on sunglasses, and dress in black. They then fly around the room and run on walls in slow motion . How about the snob style? The Microsoft style? The Jedi Knight style? The self-actualization style? Oh…there are a lot of styles available in your creative mind and your partner’s mind, use them!
It might just turn out to be sex with more joy, and more love. I’m sure it’s bound to be a lot more fun!

My most memorable sexual experiences are not the most “gymnastic”, the most kinky, the most exciting, or the most romantic . They are the ones with the laughter, even with the tears , the ones that felt as though it didn’t matter what we were doing, because we cared, we were close and in harmony with ourselves and the universe.

Sometimes, sharing a sad, intimate moment and gently moving from tears to lovemaking, somehow these moments become more memorable than when we had orgasms all night long.

When I think in those terms, it’s not the sex that counts, it’s the love. Sex is a marvelous way to communicate love sharing all dimensions of our selves: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

We should all learn to relax and enjoy our sexual selves. We should take away all the pressures like “am I doing right…”, ” we should do like this…”, “it’s your turn…”, “did you come?…”, etc Our everyday pressures or stress from work or school should be left behind when we are in front of our partner.

Sex should be more fun, with more laughter than you have ever known: giggles, guffaws and smiles.

Isabella, I wish you peace and joy: in sex, and in all ways that you live.

Sex quotes to follow…

SEX QUOTES

“An intellectual is someone who has found something more interesting than sex.”
Edgar Wallace.

“Anybody who believes that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach flunked geography. Robert Byrne, quoted in 1,911 Best Things Anybody Ever Said, 1988

“There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 380SL.” –Lynn Lavner

“For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” Isabel Allende

“Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.” –Camille Paglia

“Women might be able to fake orgasms, but men can fake a whole relationship.” –Sharon Stone

“Clinton lied. A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is.” –Barbara Bush (Former U.S. First Lady)

“Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.”Â Woody Allen

“Ah, yes, divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.” –Robin Williams

“Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” –Billy Crystal

“According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful.” –Robert De Niro

“There’s a new medical crisis. Doctors are reporting that many men are having allergic reactions to latex condoms. They say they cause severe swelling. So what’s the problem?” –Dustin Hoffman

“Sex is one of the most wholesome, beautiful and natural experiences money can buy.” –Steve Martin

“Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.” –Oscar Wilde

“It isn’t premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.” –George Burns

“My best birth control now is just to leave the lights on.”
Joan Rivers.

“I’m glad I’m not bisexual. I couldn’t stand being rejected by men as well as women.”
Bernard Manning.

“I’m such a good lover because I practice a lot on my own.”
Woody Allen

“It’s not true that I had nothing on. I had the radio on.”
Marylyn Munroe.

“Sex between a man and a woman can be absolutely wonderful - provided you get between the right man and the right woman.” - Woody Allen

“When I’m good I’m very, very good but when I’m bad I’m better.”
Mae West.

“Before we make love my husband takes a pain killer.”
Joan Rivers.

“The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money costs less.”
Brendan Francis.

“Love is the answer - but while you’re waiting for the answer sex raises some pretty good questions.”
Woody Allen

Filed under: SEX, SEX QUOTES, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, LIFE by ross

32 Responses to “Sex in relationships”

chuvachienes, on March 17th, 2007 at 3:05 pm said:

$ my soulmate ross - - this is so funny! i was not even prepared to read something like this from you.

this is a great evolution.. in life we go through things. we learn to first follow what we see. then we learn to follow what we feel. and now, we learn to follow what we think.

sex is great! actually my mind is occupied with sex like all males on earth - ALL THE TIME.

i like this one…

“An intellectual is someone who has found something more interesting than sex.â€
Edgar Wallace.

I guess I’m not an intellectual just yet.

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ross, on March 18th, 2007 at 10:44 am said:

Chuva,

do you know why that quote is on top of my list?
Because I am not one either!

one word of caution: don’t let sex to be the sole owner of your mind

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Alfa, on March 22nd, 2007 at 1:38 pm said:

Hi,

Very contemplative post you got here.

I stop enjoying sex when we start laughing while we’re at it. Does that mean that I’m not enjoying the real essence of sex?

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ross, on March 22nd, 2007 at 1:58 pm said:

Hello Alfa,

Contemplative…hmmn a very “pious” word

Thank you!

Others would take “laughing”while at it as “offensive”…you can find the real answers inside yourself why you stopped enjoying it.

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Sonnie, on March 24th, 2007 at 3:27 am said:

Funny post and worth reading.

Let me share a quote from a spiritual leader:

“A good sex life starts at the sala and not on the bedroom”

It’s more than the style and the frequency, but of the nurturing relationship. A happy sex life does not emanate in the bedroom. But on how nurturing the relationship is between the partners outside the bedroom.

Just my 2 cents.

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ross, on March 24th, 2007 at 1:58 pm said:

Hello Sonnie,

I completely agree about nurturing relationships between partners outside the bedroom

As I’ve said on my post :

>>itâ€™s not the sex that counts, itâ€™s the love. Sex is a marvelous way to communicate love sharing all dimensions of our selves: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

Thank you for your two cents…keep them coming up. I need your wisdom for my “can”!

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c5, on March 25th, 2007 at 9:51 pm said:

Sonnie, most often than not, we start at the sala…since the kids are in the bedroom!

Don’t wonder, it’s a small house with 1 bedroom (fortunately upstairs)

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ross, on March 25th, 2007 at 11:24 pm said:

C5,

You got me laughing

Don’t forget the kitchen, the bathroom

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c5, on March 26th, 2007 at 11:26 pm said:

I hate the bathroom, it’s a square meter small…and the kitchen…our table is the top of our washing machine! hehehe…

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ross, on March 27th, 2007 at 5:07 pm said:

C5,

hahha well, no matter how big or small the place, no matter where and how…it is the love oozing between you that really matters!

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c5, on March 28th, 2007 at 12:06 am said:

It’s true…but if it’s uncomfy, you just can’t give off your best…

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bitch dragon, on April 2nd, 2007 at 9:16 pm said:

“NOBODY DIES FROM LACK OF SEX…IT IS LACK OF LOVE THAT PEOPLE DIE FOR..”

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c5, on April 3rd, 2007 at 2:51 pm said:

actually people can die from having too much of it…especially with different partners…

dragon, your comment is true.

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reyna elena, on April 8th, 2007 at 1:22 am said:

OW MY GAAWWDDD! whatever happened to my dear? talking about sex now?! ~tingin sa kanan~ * ~tingin sa kaliwa~ AM I ON THE RIGHT SITE?! IS THIS YOU ROSS??? KNOCK!~ KNOCK!!!

Whew! Eto nga!!!

Grrrr!!!

True… I’ve read somewhere, siguro sa mga bato dun sa Pasig, that after having sex, you always feel good. I don’t know. I’m a virgin. What do I know. Ask Chuva. Or Flip. They’re like every freakin’ friday doing… well… you know! Maybe every hour by the hour because I know for one thing that Chuva is always EXTREMMMMEEELYYY happy. So, that must be it!

And isn’t it always the butt of jokes, even at work, everytime my bipolar crazy insane lunatic boss comes in some wakitongka disgusting attitude, everyone sings the same chorus! Find her a man and give her sex!

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reyna elena, on April 8th, 2007 at 1:24 am said:

Ok, fine. You wanna know some really kinky things that I did?
Ok, wag na lang. Kakahiya. But pag pinilit mo ko?
SASABIHIN KO RINNNN!!!!

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c5, on April 10th, 2007 at 6:47 am said:

Si Ako Ito kaya? Baka gusto nya malaman…

Ross, asan ka na? Nasa Boracay ka pa ba? Kelan ang dating mo dito?

Ingat ka lagi ha…

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ross, on April 13th, 2007 at 7:01 pm said:

Reyna,

I checked the date you posted your comment, it was easter time!

Hala! and you are reading about sex?

Paki email na lang sa akin yun details ng sex life mo hane?

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ross, on April 13th, 2007 at 7:02 pm said:

C5,

salamat sa mga bisita mo d2 kahit na wala ako…lapit na tayo mag kita!

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reyna elena, on April 13th, 2007 at 10:19 pm said:

ross dah’ling, if i email you the nitty gritty details oh mah sex life, baka magmukhang porno site tong blog mo!!! he he he! Leather pa kamo! HA HA HA!

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ross, on April 14th, 2007 at 1:44 pm said:

reyna,

you can use any means you can do it anywhere you want it, anytime you desire it as long as you are happy and probably loving the person whom you are sharing your passions, emotions etc

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c5, on April 14th, 2007 at 3:09 pm said:

naku ross, di pwede yung kahit saan lang! pano kung sa gitna ng EDSA???

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ross, on April 14th, 2007 at 3:23 pm said:

C5,

haha well uso yun tatawid ng road ng may dalang big box…ilalagay ko si reyna dun at yun partner nya sa loob. Ikaw, type mo?

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c5, on April 14th, 2007 at 4:28 pm said:

ay ayoko…shy type ako eh…

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claudia, on May 20th, 2007 at 3:14 pm said:

You so cracked me up with this posting, very gooooood!! We have so much confusion about sex today, the old philosophy battling with the new, it’s hard to know what best works for you. Anyways, I will definately blogroll you and I appreciate the comments. –Clau

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ross, on May 20th, 2007 at 3:31 pm said:

Hello Claudia,

The artist in you oozed out when your eyes took notice of this old post!

It’s my honor to have you here. I really appreciate it!

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blink, on May 30th, 2007 at 12:04 pm said:

interesing. clap clap. wala akong alam sa mga bagay na ganito. pero. its enlightening for a 17yearold virgin. haha

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ross, on May 30th, 2007 at 2:29 pm said:

Hello Blink,

Oh my! You are not supposed to read that!

Well, enjoy it when you’ll find yourself on it…kahit bitin o hindi ***

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mei, on September 29th, 2007 at 7:05 am said:

i love your site! stumbled on it looking for quotes connecting reading n sex.. loved the intellectual quote! =)

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ross, on October 2nd, 2007 at 4:32 pm said:

Hello Mei,

Welcome to my site
Glad to know you love my site, suggestions from you are appreciated…
cheers

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mandy bo, on October 5th, 2007 at 9:59 pm said:

I love this article. I think you have a great style of writing and I share your attitudes about the suppression of our sexual desires due to fear in society that has made it such a taboo subject. I have been saying this for years. I am glad to see an individual writing on this topic with such intellect and reason. Keep up the awsome work and I look forward to upcoming reads.

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ross, on November 4th, 2007 at 7:17 pm said:

Hello Mandy,

Welcome to my site and I’m so sorry for my late reply.

Your words are so inspiring and I really appreciate it so much. I am aware I’ve been neglecting my site for a couple of months now. Yet, I’m glad new readers like you took time to stop by and leave encouraging remarks about my post. Thanks!

However, this post is one reason why I’ve been receiving a lot of spam comments about sex

Best Wishes to you.

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Jerry Galino, on April 7th, 2008 at 11:28 pm said:

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